Tips questions about dealing
with difficult people:
- Can you recall the last time you had to deal with a negative or difficult person?
- Or the last time someone said something with the intention of hurting you? How did you handle it?
- What was the result? What can you do in the future to get through these situations with peace and grace?
- It is true that wherever we are going we will face people who are negative and who will oppose what you think it is right.
- How can we handle negative situation when it happens?
Why we need to be careful when
we are dealing with negative people or negative issues?
The
Bible gives us some practical guidelines for managing difficult people. The
first is found in Matthew 18:15-17 and Ephesians 4:15. Both of these
passages instruct us to confront difficult people privately and in love. Take
the initiative; but in doing so, be sure you are fair, firm and friendly.
According
to the Bible the way to deal with difficult people is to love them, pray for
them, expect to give rather than to receive, maintain a humble spirit, and
relate to them in patience and kindness.
The
Bible also cautions us that we also need to examine ourselves before judging
others by praying for the Spirit’s power to change our own hearts and minds
toward the difficult person and enable us to see them as needing the same love,
grace and mercy that God extended toward us.
We have
a clear example of Jesus forgave the men who were going to kill him, as we read
in Luke 23:34-39. The way to deal with difficult people, then, is to practice
Christ’s humility and love. That kind of response is both edifying to us and
pleasing to the Lord. Pope John Paul II Demonstrating with his personal deeds,
he visited the man who attempted to kill him and forgave him for his wrong
doing. He exhorted the faithful to be merciful as our Heavenly Father is
merciful. So what about us do we always utilize this merciful tool in our life
towards difficult people?
If in our life we don’t do that what we
create is holding grudge what does this means in our life, it is like drinking poison and expecting the other person
to die. But we forget that the only person we hurt is ourselves. When we
react to negativity, we are disturbing our inner space and mentally creating
pain within ourselves.
Why people initiate negativity, it looks like it is a reflection
of their inner state expressed externally and sometimes because our ego likes
problems and conflict. People are often so bored and unhappy with their own
lives that they want to take others down with them.
As I have explained before that when we are in a negative state or
holding a grudge against someone, we don’t feel very good. We carry that energy
with us as we go about our day. When we don’t feel very good, we lose sight of
clarity and may react unconsciously to matters in other areas of our lives,
unnecessarily.
We can run away from the truth that we are humans after all, and
we have emotions and egos. And we need to understand that Negative people can
be a source of energy. When you find yourself identifying with emotions and
thoughts, bring your focus on your breath.
Need to remember that when we are dealing with difficult people, don’t try to
change the other person; you will only get into a power struggle, cause
defensiveness, invite criticism, or otherwise make things worse. It also
makes you a more difficult person to deal with.
Therefore
lowering your expectations of people will make you more comfortable with
difficult as James 1:19-20: said that "So
then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow
to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of
God"
